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"Rhonda’s guest today is Cathy Himlin, Family and Marriage Therapist and court officer in Dependency Court. Rhonda and Cathy take an honest look at parenting through divorce and how the court system doesn’t always support what’s best for the child. Here is what they cover:

 

• Divorce shifts a parent’s role.

• The developmental stages of a child must be considered.

• Imbalance in the parenting roles can be financially motivated.

• Parental Alienation - what it is, and what it isn’t.

• Separate court from time with your child.

 

Your host is Rhonda Noordyk, CDFA®, CEO of The Women’s Financial Wellness Center

 

Rhonda has dedicated her career to being an advocate for women and educating them on how financial strategies can impact their personal and professional success. Her work has shown women going through a divorce how to have a voice, be assertive, get results, be driven, and move forward with confidence. 

 

For Rhonda and her company, the Women’s Financial Wellness Center, helping women isn’t just about running the numbers. It’s about asking the right questions, demystifying myths and biases around finances, and helping women walk in their power. Rhonda is passionate about helping her clients navigate a broken system and level the playing field so they can achieve success—pre, during, and post-divorce."

 

Visit her podcast page at https://womensfinancialwellnesscenter.libsyn.com/

"Ever wonder how to support children caught in the turmoil of high-conflict divorce and custody battles? Join us as we host Cathy Himlin, a seasoned licensed marriage and family therapist, who shares her profound insights into family therapy within the court system. Through her child-centric approach, Cathy reveals the intricacies of helping children reconnect with rejected parents, offering listeners a unique look into her innovative modalities for mending broken relationships, and her specialized parenting class designed to aid rejected parents.

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Navigating the complex world of court-involved family therapy can be daunting, but Cathy demystifies this challenging landscape. Learn about the "list of three" method for selecting therapists and the ethical dilemmas professionals often face. Cathy highlights the importance of maintaining clear boundaries and a child-focused approach, steering clear of controversial reunification practices. We also discuss significant legislative changes in California that are shaping the future of family therapy, emphasizing the importance of supporting and repairing family bonds without causing harm.

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The journey doesn't end when children become young adults. Discover the ongoing efforts parents make to maintain connections with their children even into their mid-20s and beyond. Simple acts like sending cards can have a profound impact, even if initially met with rejection. We introduce the Rejected Parents Newsletter (which you can sign up for on Cathy's website),  packed with strategies for mending strained relationships. Drawing parallels between attachment issues in foster care and those in high-conflict divorces, this episode offers valuable insights into fostering resilience and healthy family dynamics. Don't miss this enlightening discussion on therapeutic approaches in family conflict."

 

Visit his podcast page at https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/the-family-disappeared-podcast/

"Ever wondered why the current family law system feels so inadequate? Join us for an enlightening conversation as we tackle the urgent need for family law reform, prioritizing the well-being of children over contentious litigation. We sit down with Cathy Himlin, an expert in both the foster care system and family law, to explore how channeling resources into counseling and support can significantly reduce conflicts and help families heal. Cathy shares her profound insights into the similarities between the foster care system and cases of parental alienation, offering practical legal processes that could be adapted to improve outcomes.

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In our compelling discussion with Cathy, we dive into the emotional trauma and attachment disorders that children face in high-conflict divorces. Cathy sheds light on how attachment ruptures in these situations can mirror the emotional harm seen in foster care cases. Our conversation emphasizes the critical need for timely intervention and supervised visitation to prevent prolonged separation and additional trauma. We also discuss the importance of skilled therapists who can help children articulate their feelings of rejection and begin the healing process, making a strong case for systemic change.

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We then shift our focus to the pressing need for family court system reform. The discussion highlights the lack of child-centered training for judges and attorneys and proposes the introduction of specialized roles such as court officers and trained social workers to provide essential insights into family dynamics and child development. Finally, we offer practical tips for parents on selecting effective therapists, stressing the importance of confidentiality, unbiased communication, and the right therapeutic approaches. Tune in for a rich discussion aimed at fostering better family dynamics and advocating for systemic change."

 

Visit his podcast page at https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/the-family-disappeared-podcast/

"Today I have a special interview with Cathy Himlin, LMFT from Himlin Consulting. Cathy specializes in helping parents, primarily fathers, navigate their relationships with their children during and after a divorce. Whether you are concerned about losing your children in a divorce and want to make the transition as smooth as possible… Or just want to learn how to connect, or re-connect with your children (especially your teens)... You’ll find a lot of value in this episode.

 

You’ll hear me ask a lot of questions on how to connect with my son, and I got some great and useful advice that is already helping. Watch on YouTube here. -Dr. Mike"​

 

Visit his podcast page at https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/

I joined Seth Nelson of NLG Divorce & Family Law and Pete Wright of TruStory.FM on the How to Split a Toaster podcast to discuss a child-centered approach in divorce parenting. We chat about how to help them understand the full impact of divorce and cope with the changes. 

In this episode, we offer insights on:
• Being mindful of how your emotions and behaviors affect your children during divorce
• Focusing on your children's needs and creating safe spaces for them to express their feelings
• Why seeking professional help, like reunification therapy, can be crucial in maintaining and repairing parent-child bonds

Visit their podcast page at https://www.nlgfamilylaw.com/toaster

"Step into the world of high-conflict divorce on the Modern Divorce Podcast, where we tackle a pressing issue head-on: Parental Alienation. Today's important espisode features Reunification Family Therapist, Cathy Himlin, of Himlin Consulting, teaming up with family law attorney and host, Billie Tarascio, to unpack the elements of this complex phenomenon and equip you with the essential parenting skills you needto rebuild a connection with your child.

In this important episode, Cathy shares some amazing insights driving Parental Alienation, including:

• The surprising truth behind why even 'nice guy' parents can find themselves on the outside looking in

• The contentious issues surrounding reunification camps

• The hidden layers of grief that silently shape family dynamics

• How children absorb their parents' emotions like sponges

• The detrimental effects of permissive parenting

• The stages of child development that can potentially influence on parental rejection

Even if you're the parent who is spending the majority of time with your child, this episode unveils a host of issues that every single parent should be aware of."
Visit their podcast page at https://mymodernlaw.com/the-modern-divorce-podcast/

"Is your child avoiding or refusing contact with you? Are you in a conflictual custody situation? Have you tried everything, but nothing seems to work?

 

You do not want to miss this week of "One Day You'll Thank Me" with special guest expert, Cathy Himlin, LMFT, LPCC. Cathy has over 25 years of experience working with families, kids, and their parents. As a court-involved social worker and therapist with dependency and family law cases, she has seen how beneficial a child-centered approach is.

Listen in as Tara and Cathy discuss what happens when high-conflict divorce leads to estrangement between parent and child. Learn tips for reunification and to help bridge the gap, including:

- Child-centered parenting specifically created for estranged parents.

- Learn why children may avoid parents and ways to reach your child.

- How to help your child feel safe, heard and loved by you.

- How do we define “parent-child estrangement”? What behaviors and emotions are observable when a parent and child are estranged? 

-Ideally, what role should the preferred parent play in the reunification process?

 

Website -Dr. Tara Egan's child & adolescent therapy services books, webinars, public speaking opportunities, and coaching/consultation services, Go HERE."

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Visit her podcast page at: https://www.egancounselingandconsulting.com/podcast

"Parental alienation is a real thing. It’s not as simple as one parent trying to turn a child against the other. It involves a variety of factors that can exist in any given family, including the children’s reactions to their situation. Sadly, parents who struggle with children rejecting them often do so in private.

However, when parents learn to express empathy through validating their children’s feelings, it can start to reconnect them emotionally and create safety to repair the relationship.

As a reunification/conjoint family therapist, Cathy Himlin believes the key is a child-centered approach, focusing on the child’s emotional perspective.

Cathy Himlin, LMFT, LPCC is a sought after expert supporting child-focused parenting and legal professionals in high conflict cases. She’s the President and CEO of Family Connections Therapy and Founder of Himlin Consulting.

During this episode, we dive into how the courts traumatize families and make the situations worse, additional reasons for children rejecting their parents and how parents can positively influence this through learning new methods of communication and understanding the child's viewpoint and how parental alienation is not so black and white. Cathy wants to bring parents hope that there are other ways to deal with children rejecting them vs. fighting it out in the courtroom.
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Join hosts, Mick Smith and Kindra Riber, who are fervently fighting to put an end to the excruciating pain caused by divorce, parental alienation, custody battles, and the disintegration of families. Their mission is to equip you with the necessary tools to heal and recover from the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

For more captivating discussions and valuable insights, visit their podcast page at https://www.podpage.com/the-aftermath-of-divorce-family-trauma-custody-battles-and-the-healing-thereaf/.

If you find yourself entangled in a high-conflict divorce or experiencing the heart-wrenching alienation from your children, they encourage you to share your story with them. Reach out to them at theaftermathhealing@gmail.com and let your voice be heard."

"In this video, mediation attorney "Chief Peacekeeper™" Scott Levin and therapist Cathy Himlin talk about why a child might come to reject a parent during and after a California divorce. Cathy Himlin has extensive experience in working with children and families dealing with the alienation of a parent and she shares some great insight as to how the alienation may come about and some of the ways it can be addressed inside and outside of the court system.

 

Children must be protected and the priority for any divorcing couple should be to move through the divorce process with a child-centered and child-focused approach. Mediation is a divorce process option that can limit fighting and minimize tension by getting solutions agreed upon quickly and early on, while also allowing couples to come up with creative solutions for custody that are tailored to their kids specifically. Learn more about how Scott Levin can help mediate your divorce in California at https://sandiegofamilylawyer.net/

 

If litigation is chosen, we encourage couples to engage a therapist for children in need who can help them during the longer win-lose fight in court and hopefully escape with two loving parents who care for them.

 

When alienation occurs and one parent who wants to parent is not being allowed to by a child, we encourage you to seek out guidance through Cathy Himlin or another similar provider who can help."